Play-spaces-more

DECIDING FACTORS:

To enter into the spirit of this Mind Game ask yourself the following three questions:-

1. THE HERE AND NOW
How could opportunities currently available to you be made more convenient, comfortable and satisfying within the constraints of your current social, domestic and financial situation? Think about it!

2. REALISTIC FUTURE POSSIBILITIES
Again, given social, family and financial circumstances how might your current situation change in the foreseeable future?

3. IN THE BEST OF ALL POSSIBLE WORLDS
How do you visualise the playspace of your dreams?

Your answers to these basic questions could be the start of a journey or at least a sexy mind expanding exercise. If you already have some serious objectives I suggest you keep a pen and paper handy because, as these random notes spark alternative possibilities in your mind, jot them down or you may lose track of them with so many ideas flying around.


		HOUDINI CONNECTIONS FURTHER PAGES FROM PLAYSPACES files Random notes on alternatives, possibilities and practicalities for people excited by the idea of wrapping, strapping, chaining or tying as a pleasurable pastime.

	DECIDING FACTORS: To enter into the spirit of this Mind Game ask yourself the following three questions:- 1. THE HERE AND NOW How could opportunities currently available to you be made more convenient, comfortable and satisfying within the constraints of your current social, domestic and financial situation? Think about it! 2. REALISTIC FUTURE POSSIBILITIES Again, given social, family and financial circumstances how might your current situation change in the foreseeable future? 3. IN THE BEST OF ALL POSSIBLE WORLDS How do you visualise the playspace of your dreams? Your answers to these basic questions could be the start of a journey or at least a sexy mind expanding exercise. If you already have some serious objectives I suggest you keep a pen and paper handy because, as these random notes spark alternative possibilities in your mind, jot them down or you may lose track of them with so many ideas flying around.

	WHAT? + WHERE? + HOW? This simple equation = WHAT we do depends on WHERE it might be best possible to do it plus HOW do we get into the situation we'd like to be in. Decide for yourself which comes first. 1. Name that game? Make a list of activities you already have opportunity to enjoy. What are they called? How do you describe them to other people? 2. Fantasy and reality? Are there games you'd be tempted to explore - IF - space & equipment were available? - BUT - would you play them regularly? 3. Practical considerations. List the special equipment, space and other practical necessities demanded by games you would like to play if opportunities became a realistic possibility. 4. Friends and Family What social & family circumstances (as distinct from space) limit your opportunity to play the games you might like to play? Make a rough list. 5. Financial Considerations Cash is always a major reality and often a limiting factor. Do you have an approximate amount you might be prepared to spend to get you started on a project already in mind? Some useful budgetary shortcuts will be suggested later - so don't make finance a limiting factor in your early thinking. These five topics might offer some food for thought before we return to an expanded version of those original three basic questions about HERE & NOW, REALISTIC POSSIBILITIES OR WILDEST DREAMS? Your pencil and paper might again come in handy if you're enjoying the game so far.
	IF THE WANT TO TAKE THE MATTER FURTHER ... the preceding five points, may have brought into focus exactly where your priorities lie. Whether lack of space or a need to adapt existing space or financial constraints or kids reaching the age of curiosity is your starting point: now take another look at the original three questions repeated below in expanded form.
	1. THE HERE AND NOW For years I've been encouraging people to make the most of what they already have before investing extra cash, energy or time. Could space currently available be made more useful within the constraints of your current social, domestic and financial situation? Does this mean putting in some work, finding some cash, bringing in extra help to do specialised jobs, making extra time, getting rid of the kids occasionally so you have opportunity to play - or finding a regular play partner? That latter objective is not within the scope of this book, except that any space should be appropriate for the people who might eventually get to use it. Take a fresh look at what you already have or could have if you reorganised things even slightly. This is something worth focusing on. Speculate, think creatively and re-evaluate your existing resources. Even as an erotic mind-game it can be highly enjoyable, to think through a few scenarios for a more satisfying sex life. 2. FUTURE POSSIBILITIES Might your current situation change in the foreseeable future in terms of employment, finances, moving house, kids growing up and leaving? In terms of your private life - what does the future hold for you and should you wait for it - or consider ways to make something happen that would improve your 'leisure' opportunities? Making it happen may be the challenge you need to get more adrenaline flowing. 3. IN THE BEST OF ALL POSSIBLE WORLDS Would you play different games if you had access to different playspace? What different physical facilities would you need to help you play the games of your dreams more comfortably, efficiently, safely ... and more often? If space is the limiting factor the answer may already be in your hands. Visualise the erotic playspace of your dreams? Is it really only a lack of cash holding you back? Do you actually know what you'd do, where you'd start if what you currently think of as your limitations were removed? Are there already ways you could make just a little bit of that dream into a reality? Getting your fantasies into stronger focus can, in itself, be fun - and essential to a positive attempt to work towards a more satisfying sexual lifestyle. Only you know the answers to such questions - so where do YOU go from here?

	MORE ABOUT WHAT - WHERE? WHAT? = THE GAMES PEOPLE PLAY Activities are the "WHAT" we're discussing: Sexual, sensual, erotic, imaginative, fetishistic, kinky ... you name it.? We've already established that the word SEX in our context means "Whatever turns you on" . Sexual activities don't fall easily into conveniently labelled categories. Blanket terms like S&M, bondage, watersports all cover a lot of different levels and styles. 'Concepts' is perhaps a better word, elements in a person-to-person situation; erotic and sensual ingredients in a recipe. We all know how many different tasty dishes can be concocted from the same foodstuffs. Cooks know how a familiar recipe can turn out differently if the quantities are varied only very slightly. There's another 2000 words of text under this heading. They're stored elsewhere for anybody who'd like to pursue this path. I'm working on a different way of making it available to interested visitors without bogging down the site - but for the moment "enough's enough"! E-mail me if you want a copy.! WHERE? = AMBIANCE, ATMOSPHERE & SENSE OF PERSONAL STYLE: Firstly, confirm in your own mind how you currently visualise your ideal space (if money were no object) for the type of games you already play or would like to play? Medieval dungeon S&M Black room Jail cell Gymnasium or work-out room Practical DIY workshop or garage Medical room School Room Exotic bordello or sex boudoir Familiar bedroom modifiable for 'darker games' Comfortable all-purpose domestic 'rumpus' room Hollywood glamour TV dressing room Rubberworld Waterworld Is your favourite image listed or do you imagine a combination of styles or facilities? Or do the games that appeal to you demand more than one type of space ... or the great outdoors?

	GENERAL LIVING SPACE = A comprehensive list of pointers for making an everyday living space adaptable for successful SM/bondage games is in preparation and will be added when time allows - but copies are available on request. Much depends partly on the imagery necessary to personal pleasure - but also, who else has access to space (family, casual visitors, cleaners, etc.). Personally, I don't like having to switch from comfortable socialising space to a "Playroom" in the middle of an encounter. What a wonderful surprise if you bring someone home - test them out with a hood - and when they next see, the room is transformed, and full of toys. In any event - planning any practical space can give you a lot of happy hours.
	WORD GAMES Notes from the 'spaces' file intended only for people who are amused by WORD-PLAY are saved as a separate file MORE
	Finally, a not-so-obvious-solution is something I've installed for various players: SECRET SPACE This can be an ideal solution to making either a general daytime living area or bedroom into a "transformable" space. If overall architectural shape of the room is suitable, with a little imagination this concept can offer the most practical and satisfactory solution. A section totally closed off by specially built cupboard units or wall partitions, hinged to swing open. The "inside" of these walls when opened become part of whole room and can have equipment or appropriate decor attached. Even a corner unit (floor to ceiling), say two panels each 1.25meters wide that swing open, will reveal five meters of "committed" wall, ceiling and floor space. The partitions can look like "long term storage" and won't excite curiosity from visitors, cleaning woman etc. Maybe they will be undetectable as false walls. Inside such a unit, floor to ceiling posts can act as support for the panels when closed and locked, and when open act as freestanding pillar or whipping frame. Inside the unit, drawers, chests, hanging racks can be attached to insides of walls to add extra rigidity. On the main structural walls inside the unit, strong fixing points or equipment which could never be disguised. Floor covering which can be rolled out (part attached to floor) could be stored inside the unit and extend to protect the main room carpet during games if required . Depending on size, shape and style of any ordinary living space, this "Secret Space" could transform a room into a very practical and versatile playroom as the un-latching of a well disguised latch or lock.

	CHECK THE FOLLOWING AGAINST OTHER PLAYSPACE FILES
	WHAT? = THE GAMES PEOPLE PLAY List your personal sexual preference alternatives? Check how precise are words and terms you used? What play partners now - hope to have in future? Will space host group activities? Indoors or outdoor possibilities? Degree of commitment to playing? WHERE? = AMBIANCE& FACILITIES Visual and atmospheric personal preferences? Special facilities needed for different activities? Use & maintenance of space - frequency of use? Shared ownership? Storage alternatives? Pack-away and portable equipment? (Toys & small equipment not be included in this review)		HOW? = PRACTICAL MATTERS & LOGISTICS Structural = wall/floor/ceiling surface, sound proofing Basic services = power, heat, air conditioning, plumbing Ambiance = lighting, sound, video Fixtures & fittings = you name it Installations (Metal and wood ) Anchor points and suspension Cages or isolation spaces Display & Storage Secret spaces Furniture OTHER CONSIDERATIONS DIY and TRADED SKILLS = learn or call in COVER STORIES = Inquisitive friends, neighbours or local trades people FAMILY & SOCIAL TIES = Dangers and complications reviewed from practical & psychological viewpoint?
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